ASK April – How to get over your ex
Some relationships are seasonal and not meant to go the distance. And yet, it’s always so painful to let go and be rational when the one you love breaks up with you. You feel lost, confused and your self-esteem takes a hit.
In my private coaching work, I’m helping singles at different parts of their journey. Most are coming to me with residual fall out from their last relationship and can’t seem to stop the “WHY” cycle.
Since there isn’t an FDA approved “Get Over My Ex” pill, you have to find a way to heal, move on and put everything into perspective.
CLICK PLAY to hear my advice on GETTING OVER YOUR EX.
The good news is that when you truly understand that all of your relationships are VALUABLE, you’ll be able to move through the pain with more ease and less down time. It’s never going to be easy to get over someone you care about. It’s not supposed to be. People are not disposable. You can however put everything into perspective for yourself and focus on the lessons you received during and after your relationship.
I hope you enjoy! Feel free to SHARE this video, “Like” it and write your comments below! I’d love to hear your thoughts.
Great video! I think what’s most helpful from the tips you provided is to not compare a 2 year bond to a 1 hour dinner relationship. That is key, we often forget and drag ourselves in a tunnel of despair with negative emotions and comparisons that are not based off reality. A one hour date, or even a few dates obviously does not compare to a 2 year bond that has gone through many ups and downs to be formed.
Thank you Sara! Good points!
Hi April. I really appreciated this video and I did get a few ideas from it. My situation is a bit different in that my last relationship was not a good one and I am having a hard time getting over the aweful things he did and how he acted. I find myself afraid of moving on because I dont trust my judgement in men anymore. How do I stop comparing his bad behaviors with all men? I am a very busy business woman and it seems I am making my time too busy to even try a relationship because of my fears. Thank you for your consideration.
Candy
Hi Candy,
This is a great question but a very involved one that would require more care and time. If you’d ever like me to answer a question for you, please visit my ASK April page her on the site. In short, time and space is needed here. You’re only going to be able to separate these men from your ex when you have continued experiences with great men. Just be careful not to voice your mistrust to new men that have not hurt you or disappointed you. It’s just not fair and you might miss out on a good man. Be good to yourself and take time with this!
Great video!! I shared it with two women that will benefit as well. When I have experienced a break up, I focus on ME and my work that I am so passionate about and that is one of the most rewarding aspects of my life.
Glad you liked it and happy you are here! All the best- April
thank you for sharing, april! when i came out of a serious relationship about a year ago, it was very painful. in order to get through it and move on, i became super “me” focused. i made it a priority to eat well, exercised regularly (even if i didn’t want to) and worked with a great therapist. i also fought hard to reawaken to what makes me come alive. i had a lovely relationship in many respects, but i had suppressed some parts of my true self in the name of “compromise.” now i can say i’ve really come out of it grateful, clear and stronger than i’ve ever been. and my ex and i have been able to transition into being friends – something i would not have been able to do in the past because i used to hold on the the hurt. something a wise female mentor told me this past year that really helped: “men are just a reflection of you. when you truly love yourself, that’s what you’ll attract.”
Couldn’t have said it better myself Flora! Way to go!
What a great service/product you have developed. Very much needed.
Liz
April – this came at the perfect time. I met a marriage minded man, so with your help I am getting closer and clearer. Unfortunately his instincts were that I was not the right one for him. I have learned so much from you and this video is perfect for where I am right now. The relationship taught me how to have an open heart and be warm and loving.
Thank you for your kind words Nicole! So thrilled that the video was helpful to you!
Wonderful advice as always. This email couldn’t have arrived in my in-box at a more perfect time in my life.. Thank you.
Hi Lauren! You are most welcome! Thanks for the post!
I appreciated hearing that some relationships are seasonal. This helps me to enjoy the season I am in and not to be overly focused about finding a lifelong partner.
Hello Leah!
It’s all about enjoying the journey! Glad you “got it”. Thanks!
Hi! I’m loving these emails from you. High-touch, valuable, personal. Hope you are great! ENJOY THE MOMENTS!