But is it for you? Have you tried to date online only to feel deflated and more confused? Is it something you think you should do but feel it’s not your style? More importantly, does it embarrass you on any level or make you feel a little too vulnerable? God forbid someone you know should see your photo and bio! What then?

In today’s video, I’m giving you tips on how to get past the fear of dating online and get moving to create new opportunities for yourself.

I’m going to show you:

1. How you’re not alone. Come on! Everyone’s dating online!
2. The common mistake most people make with online photos.
3. How to organize so this doesn’t become your 2nd job.
4. What to write on your profile to get noticed.
5. How to put your fear in check and simplify the process.

Your friend in love,

I’m sure everyone thinks that as a Relationship Expert and Matchmaker, that I automatically love this holiday. Every year around this time I can feel the discontent, sadness and frustration from women and men that are single. This breaks my heart and quite frankly makes me dread  Valentine’s Day. No day should make you feel this way so please keep everything in perspective. By Wednesday morning, it’ll all be over and all that candy on the shelves will be half price.

I know it’s a bit of a commercial day, but when you think about it, why not have a day that celebrates romance? If anything, we need more of this in our lives.

Wherever you are in your personal journey; single, engaged, married or divorced,  I want you to enjoy yourself this month. It’s a time to treat yourself to something fabulous to get you in the spirit of giving and receiving. In order to find and keep deep love you have to know how to give AND receive. So if you’re not in a relationship right now, start practicing! You don’t need a man in your life to celebrate Valentine’s Day.

Here are a few ways to celebrate Valentine’s Day single style:

Host a dinner party

I heard from a friend the other day who’s decided to host a big dinner party for all of her single girlfriends. Each guest will go home with a goody bag of all things girlie and feminine. I love this idea!

Treat yourself

No man in your life? Buy yourself some gorgeous flowers and place them next to your nightstand. Roses preferred!! Go out for a gourmet meal with a group of your favorite friends or book a spa day. Get the picture?

Don’t be alone

The worst thing you can do to yourself if you are depressed about Valentine’s Day is to sit home and watch sappy romance movies. Get out of the house! Surround yourself with people that are on your team. This means, people that adore you and think you are something special. This is LOVE day, so spend it with people who LOVE you!

Share in the joy

Be happy for your friends who ARE in love. Your time will come if it hasn’t already. I get a lot of calls and emails this month from women that are truly upset about their single status and having difficulty supporting the friends who have found love. Don’t be that woman. Be unique. Be supportive. Love attracts love.

Remember, I spent a decade helping love happen for other people when I was single. If I can do it, you can too!

Be thankful and look forward

You’re not alone. Every day I meet amazing women that are single and don’t have a date for Valentine’s Day. Take a deep breath and give thanks for all that you DO have in life.  For example: Your family, friends, career, health and a bright future.

Get busy getting happy

I’m always asked what men are looking for in women so here it is in a nutshell: Men are attracted to happy, positive, confident women. Fill yourself up with your own joy so being with you will be a luxury and not a chore. Happiness begins with YOU. Not a relationship.

Start preparing for love

When love strikes, it happens quickly. Marriage minded men don’t take long to commit to the woman of their dreams. Your love life can turn around in a blink of an eye and tomorrow you could meet a wonderful man. I see it happen every day in my business. You’re going to want to be ready for him so make sure you’re prepared. Forgive your past hurts, have a full understanding of who you are, what you need, how you want to be treated and what you have to offer in a relationship. The best thing you can do for yourself (and your future Mr. Wonderful)  is to focus on YOU. If you constantly have your eye on the target of  finding a man, you’re going to miss out on your life. Start that diet, take that trip you’ve been wanting to take but afraid to go alone, find your passions and do them daily, get in touch with your spiritual side and most importantly…. breathe, relax and smile. Life is sweet! Don’t miss it!

Are you or anyone you know suffering from the “Do I have to settle to settle down” syndrome? It’s a common question that leaves women feeling unsettled, confused and down right anxious about their dating life.

Let’s be honest. At some point, you’ve been in a relationship where you felt like you were settling. Today I’m going to explain how you can instantly tell if you’re settling and why I believe some women are not being SELECTIVE enough!

I’m going to show you:

1. How to tell if you’re just too picky and missing out on a great man.
2. How to determine the difference between settling and settling down.
3. How you can get super clear about your dream guy by doing a simple exercise.

I would love to hear from you! Please post your thoughts right below the video. I do read each and every one of your comments.

Until next week, I wish you New Beginnings and Lasting Relationships!

Your friend in love,

Are most men only interested in the pursuit? Do men run hot and cold and need women to be mysterious to keep their interest? If you answered TRUE to one or both of these questions, I’m happy to tell you that the answers are FALSE.

I’ve been thinking a lot about this topic. In fact, it’s one of my favorites.

In this week’s video, I’ll explain how YOU might be changing the temperature with the men you meet and how they are simply responding to the climate change.

There is no time to wait to show your availability and your true self. You need to show this RIGHT AWAY with men. Yes, even your very first date.

How do you feel about showing your true self on the 1st date? I can’t wait to read comments below.

Your friend in love,

Today’s Ask April will give you tips to help you decide how you wanted to be treated and pursued so you never question yourself or your intuition again.

I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below. Have you had any online dating experiences you’d like to share?

Your friend in love,

In my private coaching work, I’m helping singles at different parts of their journey. Most are coming to me with residual fall out from their last relationship and can’t seem to stop the “WHY” cycle.

Since there isn’t an FDA approved “Get Over My Ex” pill, you have to find a way to heal, move on and put everything into perspective.

CLICK PLAY to hear my advice on GETTING OVER YOUR EX.

The good news is that when you truly understand that all of your relationships are VALUABLE, you’ll be able to move through the pain with more ease and less down time. It’s never going to be easy to get over someone you care about. It’s not supposed to be. People are not disposable. You can however put everything into perspective for yourself and focus on the lessons you received during and after your relationship.

I hope you enjoy! Feel free to SHARE this video, “Like” it and write your comments below! I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Let’s be honest. He’s not sweeping you off your feet in the romance department. Do you call him back? Give him the cold hard facts? Avoid him like the plague? Give him a second date just to be sure?

It’s a tricky thing. I know how hard it is to let someone down. I also know that each and every one of us have been confused and left in the dark when a man disappeared after what seemed to be a great date. It’s a two way street.

Do you prefer that he just not tell you? Would you rather hear the cold hard truth? Would you feel better if he told you that he was seeing someone else? Going off to war?

I get hundreds of emails every month from women asking me this very important question: “April, how do I stay feminine while I have to be so aggressive and strong at work?”

Well, I could not think of a better way to launch my series than to answer this ever so popular question. If you’ve ever questioned this in your own life (and I’m sure you have), I want you to know that you are not alone! This is perplexing to most modern, hard working women . Our world has shifted so much that right now, it doesn’t even matter how financially successful you are- you work hard at everything you do and stress levels for women are on the rise. It’s tough to keep it all in check.

It’s a balancing act for sure. I get it. I run a busy and successful company. Yes, it’s a Matchmaking and Relationship Consulting company, but it’s still a business and I have to constantly work at maintaining my “inner girl.”

I’ve packed this video with my 3 best tips on how to stay in your FEMININE power 24/7. You can start using these tips today to make a huge difference in how you feel and how you are being perceived.

Happy Holidays!

I’m heading out to my family’s house with my husband and wanted to wish you Happy Holidays! I shot a quick video for you sharing some tips for a more successful dating future and included a couple of updates as well!

I have new and exciting ways to support you this upcoming year so please stay tuned!

Wishing you New Beginnings and Lasting Relationships in 2012!

1.  Take your eye off the “Relationship Target”. Unlike your career, love is not something that you can plan or strategize for. If you’re constantly focused on what you don’t have, you’ll miss out on special moments and quite possibly a great deal of joy and happiness.  If you’re too focused on finding “him” you’re going to put yourself in a constant place of feeling like you’re failing at something and that is simply not the reality of the situation. Instead, have a diffused focus. This means, have your eyes and heart open while you are living your life instead of living your life to meet a man.

2.  Dating is not a learned behavior.  There is too much advice out there telling you to be something different to land a man. This alone is what is keeping many people from finding a significant partnership. To find a great love, you have to be totally and completely YOU. Notice how you are with friends and family. The way you laugh, move, the things you talk about, how you share. Dating is no different! You must be seamless throughout your life.

3.  Timing IS everything. Yes, it sounds like a cliché, but I can tell you this is absolutely true from my 12 plus years of experience working with singles and putting couples together. Just do YOUR part. Continue to grow and learn more about yourself by investing in YOU! No, not to make sure you are the perfect package, but rather to know yourself inside and out so that you attract the right partner. Your partner may be just around the corner investing in his life in preparation for meeting you!

4.  LOVE your single journey. Yes, that’s right. Fall in love with your life. Love is like a magnet that is pulled in the direction of people who are happy and already loving their lives. Celebrate where you are because guess what? Single is a temporary status. It is not permanent even though it may feel that way at times. I met my husband at a time that I wasn’t looking! In fact, I was having a blast being single!

5.  You are given what you are ready to receive. We all think that love should just be granted to us because we want it. Not so. The universe has a funny way of giving us what we are ready to receive. Most women are wonderful givers but haven’t learned the art of receiving. Practice this on a daily basis with people you know and meet. If you haven’t met someone yet, give yourself a break and understand that you are being taken care of. The universe can see you and you are not forgotten.  WOULD LOVE YOUR COMMENTS BELOW!!!

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