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How To Stand Out And Succeed at Online Dating, Part One

With the nights getting longer and the holidays fast approaching, you might be feeling inclined to spruce up your online dating profile so you’ll have someone to enjoy all the festivities with.

Of course, those festivities are also a great opportunity to meet eligible men, but that’s a topic for another post. A single gal has to keep all of her options open, and that includes keeping things fresh and exciting on the digital front.

We all know dating online is not without its challenges, so for the next few weeks, I’m going to give you some pointers to get yourself out there with the right tools, knowledge and attitude. There’s no reason not to get a head start on that New Year’s Eve kiss!

This Week’s Tip: High Quality Photos are a Must

With all the millions of fish in the online dating sea, there has to be a way for you to elevate yourself beyond the competition, and let’s face it, your face is your calling card. Men are visual creatures, and if you want a man to stop and take notice, you have to have photos that are attractive and that clearly illustrate what you would look like walking into a room.

Your photos should be well-lit and you should be the only person in them. No man wants to squint at the screen trying to pick you out of a grainy line-up of women in a bar, all holding glasses of chardonnay while doing the skinny arm pose and the knee pop.

When It Comes to Photos, Less Is More.

I recommend three photos: a beautiful headshot that shows you smiling warmly with your hair down and your face clearly visible; a full body shot featuring you in dating attire such as heels, jewelry and a beautiful dress; and a casual photo where you are in everyday clothes but still clearly visible (no hats, no sunglasses – and no bathroom behind you! No selfies, please!). That in and of itself will help you stand out from the crowd.

Keep in mind that you only need to look like yourself. It’s not necessary to worry about looking like a model, as long as you come across as warm, friendly and open. Don’t try to look mysterious, or moody, because that backfires. Instead, let your true personality shine through. In the end, this will save you from wasting time with the wrong guy. You want to meet the man who wants to meet you – the real you.

And don’t hesitate to invest in professional photos if you can afford it. After all, this is your personal life we’re talking about here. You should absolutely give it the same time and attention as any other part of your life. You deserve it!

It Goes Both Ways.

Finally, one way to think about this is to understand that having quality photos is a sign of respect for the other person. You aren’t forcing him to take a lot of time guessing what you look like. Instead, you’re presenting yourself in the best possible light and showing that you’ve put some effort into this. You expect the same of him, no?

Next week, I’m going to talk about how to make the substance of your profile attract the attention of high-quality, eligible men! Don’t forget to check back in for that!

P.S. Meet Me in Person!

If you’re in the LA/Santa Monica area and would like to talk to me in person about online dating, I’ll be presenting the second installment of my speaker series at the 41 Ocean Club on Wednesday, November 19th!

Follow this link for tickets: Make it Great! Dating Secrets for Loving Your Love Life!  

I’d love to have you join me for cocktails, lively discussion, Q&A, and some exceptional girl time!

Much love,


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