Soulful: Full of expressing feeling or emotion.
What do you think of when you hear the word “soulful?”
It’s used in so many ways and often we think of it in a spiritual sense. You have your faith and beliefs; maybe you practice yoga to feel soulful, or you meditate regularly, or you run, hike, or swim to clear your mind and bring about a higher awareness.
But what about when it comes to dating and relationships? Do you practice the same openness in your relationships and daily encounters? I see too many women with such a laser focus on meeting a man that they’re missing out on some very important and valuable relationships. The kind that happen every day when you pass someone on the street, share an elevator or shop at the grocery store. There are millions of precious moments that are missed when you have your blinders on and you’re only moving in one direction.
You can be the woman who connects on a deeper level
I’m not talking about chatting up someone because you want to try and get a date or forcing a conversation because “April told me to do it.” The kind of connecting I want you to start thinking about is subtle, natural, easy and incredibly rewarding.
I used to live on a popular street in Santa Monica. It’s a walking street so the opportunity to meet people is abundant. And yet, not everyone made friends and connections in the way I did.
Every day I stopped and engaged, inquired and took time to listen and chat with strangers with no purpose at all except to enjoy the moments. And yes, I did this even when I was busy and had somewhere to be. Mind you, I was single in those days and I wanted to meet someone just as much as you do.
I tell you this because I grew up being very shy. To this day, although I appear to be an extrovert, I still have my shy moments. I simply had to push through the shyness because I realized that I wasn’t getting to know people and they weren’t having the opportunity to get to know me.
For this week’s thought exercise, I invite you to take your eye off the target of meeting “the one” and start having conversations with people without motive. This means, nothing to gain except the pleasure of the conversation. I encourage you to talk to everyone, not just available, handsome men!
If you’ve ever been nervous on a date (and who hasn’t) this is going to help you in ways that you can’t even imagine. It’s your path to practicing expressing yourself with emotion and feeling to all you meet even if it’s just for 5 minutes. One of my favorite classes in my Smart Sexy Soulful Dating™ course is how to date and relate Soulfully. You can learn more about this here and also receive a video about Creating Chemistry and Attraction.
I hope you enjoyed our thought provoking Friday Takeaways this month. If you missed my other two – Smart and Sexy, be sure to go back to the blog.
Enjoy your weekend and hope to see you out there engaging, connecting and relating!
Your friend in love,