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Best of Sparks!: Ask April – Why Do Men Run Hot & Cold?

Throughout the month of August, I’ll be featuring some of my most popular ASK APRIL videos here on Sparks! I’ll see you back here in September, and in the meantime have a fantastic summer!

Pop quiz, ladies!

Is it true most men are only interested in pursuit? Do men run hot and cold, needing women to be mysterious so they can remain interested? True or false?

I’m happy to tell you that the answer to both questions is false. The idea of a man only wanting to pursue distant, unavailable women is an outmoded stereotype that doesn’t apply today (if it ever did).

There’s no special length of time to wait to show your true self. You need to show the real you right away, even on your very first date. Trying to create mystery (or playing any game) is a waste of valuable time, when you could be having fun getting to know each other! Being authentic is so much more rewarding.

In this week’s video, I’ll explain how you might be the one inadvertently cooling things off with the men you meet, while they may simply be responding to the climate change!

How do you feel about showing your true self on the first date? I can’t wait to read the comments below.

Much love,
April Beyer Signature

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