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Best of Sparks!: Getting Smart About Who’s In Your Life!

Throughout the month of August, I’ve been featuring some of the most popular posts from the last six months of Sparks! This is the final post in our “Best of” series. I’ll see you back here next week with some fresh and exciting new material. In the meantime, have a fantastic Labor Day weekend!

Do you consider yourself smart when it comes to the relationships in your life? In other words, do the people you allow into your life reflect who you are and what you stand for? I’m not talking just about romantic love, but what about even your coworkers, friends and family?

And, of course, what about the men you date? What does it mean that you’ve allowed in these particular individuals? That you devote your time to them? Being intentionally conscious of your perspective on this has a great impact on whom you connect with romantically, and even on your confidence.

Being True to Yourself

Here’s another question: do your decisions, large and small, align with your core values? Do you act in your own best interest? Are you able to speak up, asking for what you need with ease and confidence?

If you don’t develop this part of yourself, you’ll forever be in a cycle of feeling like the world isn’t listening to you. And all too often, an underlying frustration will be at the center of your universe. We all know how helpful that is, right?

Pain or Joy?

This weekend is a great time to take a moment out for yourself and think about the men you’ve invited into your life. Make a mental list of their qualities and what each relationship brought to you. Was it pain or joy? Did you feel seen or heard by them? Loved, adored and respected? Don’t edit yourself. There’s no judgement here. Just a time to reevaluate as we head into a new season.

As always, feel free to share your thoughts and questions below, and of course, share with your good friends. This is an important conversation I’d like to start with you and women everywhere. We can have the best of everything in our lives, but still not be getting what we want or need when it comes to love. Men rely on us to show them how to treat us. It all starts with you and your core values.

Much love,
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