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Advice and success stories for your single soul on Valentine’s Day.

People always want to hear stories from my career matchmaking with an 89% success rate. In this interview with Catherine Gray, you’ll hear a few of them, including the beautiful story of my parents.

One consistent factor in these stories is that the people who end up falling in love said yes to my introductions. You MUST be open to all opportunities and SAY YES to dates.  You can’t circumvent the dating process to get to marriage. Be open-minded

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Kill two dating app problems with this one strategic stone.

You know the usual complaints with dating apps: they take up too much time browsing, texting, going out on meaningless dates. 

But there is one issue that probably doesn’t rise to the top of your mind:  overexposure.

“I’ve seen this guy/girl for a few years on all of these apps and I’m not interested in meeting someone that everyone else has hit on or dated.”

I’ve heard this statement countless times. It doesn’t seem fair. After all, if they see

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One of the most powerful words in dating is totally misunderstood.

Vulnerability gets a bad rap. This word is often misused and misunderstood.

So often in fact, that everywhere you turn, people are teaching vulnerability. As if it is so new and foreign this inherent characteristic requires a guided class or weekend seminar.

You’ve most likely attempted to walk the fine line of strength and vulnerability, never quite knowing when to hit the brakes or the gas. So, you wait for the opportunity, the safe place or a kind face to

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The effect of the #timesup movement in your dating life.

Before you watch the video, let me say that I am so proud to be a woman and watch the #timesup movement gain momentum.  This time of change will go down in history as a pivoting point for women.

That being said, this video fills you in on how the “good guys” out there are responding.  Approaching a woman has always been a challenge, and now men are even more hesitant.  Watch the video and then click through to this

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QUIZ: Are you lovable? Adopt a new attitude when meeting new people.

In this new world of dating apps, whether you’re on them or not, the landscape, behavior, and expectations in dating have changed. Most of your complaints revolve around wasted time and the extra effort that amounts to nothing.  But what we also know it’s difficult to stop swiping in hope one match will have the potential for love. It’s like a slot machine in Vegas. You keep trying, feeling like you’re just a breath away from a big win.

I …

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Do you want to date someone adventurous?

Adventure comes in all shapes and sizes; this personality trait is not confined to travel.  The idea is to determine how willing they are to try new things, and whether that compliments your own willingness. Don’t interrogate them, be kindly inquisitive and offer them a space to open up.

Here are a few questions to learn if the person sitting across from you is adventurous, and in what way.

  • Where was the last place you traveled?
  • Do you like to


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How to figure out if your values align when you first start dating.

One of the most challenging parts of dating new people is figuring out if your values align. This is one of the main reasons I created LEVEL: to match you based on what’s most important to you.

Values aren’t something you see or feel. They’re rooted in your background and have developed into something you hold sacred in yourself and appreciate in your partner. They are the foundation of a solid relationship, so you should try to find out …

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What makes you a “catch?”

It’s simple. It’s about how you MAKE someone feel. It’s not about your looks, your body, the money you make, the car you drive, the places you’ve traveled or your education and career. There is no such thing as “A Catch” across the board. If beauty and brains were everything, then there wouldn’t be any hot and smart women sitting home alone on a Friday night.

When a man goes out with a woman for the first time or talks …

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The Rules of Dating Have Changed.

Your mother’s list of charming advice is still relevant, but we need to add onto it.  Texting, chasing, photos, social media, ghosting, timelines, and agendas all come into play now.  How do you handle them and get the result you want instead of the frustration you dread?

Respond.

When you don’t know what to do, respond anyway. No “ghosting” or waiting. If someone reaches out to you, respond with your honest feelings. You will never be faulted for being forthright.…

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Want chemistry on your date? Create it!

Chemistry has nothing to do with how much two people have in common or how physically appealing they are to the other person.

A great date has two main ingredients: physical and emotional chemistry.

If you’re not creating emotional chemistry on a date, you’re not dating, you’re just exchanging information.  Chemistry is an active process of connection, and it requires your participation.

One way to inspire chemistry is to make it your goal to bring out the best in someone …

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