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How to figure out if your values align when you first start dating.

One of the most challenging parts of dating new people is figuring out if your values align. This is one of the main reasons I created LEVEL: to match you based on what’s most important to you.

Values aren’t something you see or feel. They’re rooted in your background and have developed into something you hold sacred in yourself and appreciate in your partner. They are the foundation of a solid relationship, so you should try to find out …

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Propose this question to yourself when you feel you want to get married.

“Am I honestly ready for the responsibility of marriage?”

Most people don’t think about responsibility when they think about marriage. You are looking for companionship, unconditional love, and unwavering support. Those things come with commitment and responsibility that should be acknowledged and respected.

Being in love with someone is an amazing experience and one to be celebrated. However, just because you love someone and that feeling is returned doesn’t necessarily mean you’re ready for the adult world of marriage. Ask …

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You should update your dating life.

Whether you’ve been single for what seems like an eternity, dating random people that you have no connection with, or have been in the wrong relationship for too long, now is the time to make some updates and changes to your dating life. No more waiting around and simply hoping things will get better.

8 WAYS TO TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR DATING LIFE

Throw away your lists.

This is a cornerstone of my teaching and matching. Your “Mr./Mrs. Right” list …

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A good reason to ALWAYS be on your best behavior.

It’s vital you keep your dating reputation squeaky clean. The dating world (and the city you live in) is smaller than you think. Word travels fast and it spreads like wildfire.
Women share everything. They drill down to the most microscopic details with their girlfriends during their post date feedback. A woman will praise you, see your depth, appreciate your sensitivity, and applaud your character. That same gossip can turn upside down if her report is negative. Her voice is …

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Is online dating worth your time?

Most of you have gone online or to apps either because “everyone is doing it” or as a last resort. You haven’t met anyone yet and you’ve heard several success stories that inspired you to give it a shot.

I applaud your motivation to take control of your dating life. But I advise you to browse and swipe with caution. Online dating can cause:

Loss of time and money

Feelings of low self-esteem

Inexplicable behavior that might cause you to …

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What makes you a “catch?”

It’s simple. It’s about how you MAKE someone feel. It’s not about your looks, your body, the money you make, the car you drive, the places you’ve traveled or your education and career. There is no such thing as “A Catch” across the board. If beauty and brains were everything, then there wouldn’t be any hot and smart women sitting home alone on a Friday night.

When a man goes out with a woman for the first time or talks …

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Target your mindset, not your relationship status.

Whether you’ve been dating for years or you’re just starting to get back out there, dating can be a daunting experience filled with ups and a few too many downs.

While you may be tired of sitting at the kids’ table, stuck searching for a plus one, here are 5 tips to keep your mind and perspective on track when all you want to do is give up.

Take your eye off the “Relationship Target.”

Love is not something you …

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The Rules of Dating Have Changed.

Your mother’s list of charming advice is still relevant, but we need to add onto it.  Texting, chasing, photos, social media, ghosting, timelines, and agendas all come into play now.  How do you handle them and get the result you want instead of the frustration you dread?

Respond.

When you don’t know what to do, respond anyway. No “ghosting” or waiting. If someone reaches out to you, respond with your honest feelings. You will never be faulted for being forthright.…

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Want chemistry on your date? Create it!

Chemistry has nothing to do with how much two people have in common or how physically appealing they are to the other person.

A great date has two main ingredients: physical and emotional chemistry.

If you’re not creating emotional chemistry on a date, you’re not dating, you’re just exchanging information.  Chemistry is an active process of connection, and it requires your participation.

One way to inspire chemistry is to make it your goal to bring out the best in someone …

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Why do men want to date younger women?

We all have a superficial wish list in a partner, but nothing superficial should ever get in the way of romance. That’s why I always tell my clients, “Throw away your list.” We need to marry your wants with your needs, both of which are based on your values, not looks or age.

My advice to men and women: forget age altogether.

Men often look for younger women because they think women their own age are jaded while a younger …

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