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I’m back! Let me fill you in.

Hi and happy new year!

I’m so excited to catch up with you and fill you in on LEVEL, my new exclusive, private, offline matchmaking network for relationship-minded men and women in California.  As you know, I’ve always been working to make dating more rewarding by supporting your with tips and guidance in your journey.   In 2018 I’m strengthening my effort with LEVEL and more direct guidance on

I encourage you to browse my new posts and write …

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If settling or working harder at dating aren’t the answers, what is?

Does the need or desire to settle down require you to settle?

If you don’t want to settle, does this mean you should “work harder” at dating?

You might have quietly (or not so quietly), asked these questions of yourself a million times. Most singles go through a state of confusion when dating starts to become daunting and exhausting…when efforts are not yielding positive results.

The best way to get clarity on whether or not you’re compromising yourself, your time,

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Advice and success stories for your single soul on Valentine’s Day.

People always want to hear stories from my career matchmaking with an 89% success rate. In this interview with Catherine Gray, you’ll hear a few of them, including the beautiful story of my parents.

One consistent factor in these stories is that the people who end up falling in love said yes to my introductions. You MUST be open to all opportunities and SAY YES to dates.  You can’t circumvent the dating process to get to marriage. Be open-minded

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Kill two dating app problems with this one strategic stone.

You know the usual complaints with dating apps: they take up too much time browsing, texting, going out on meaningless dates. 

But there is one issue that probably doesn’t rise to the top of your mind:  overexposure.

“I’ve seen this guy/girl for a few years on all of these apps and I’m not interested in meeting someone that everyone else has hit on or dated.”

I’ve heard this statement countless times. It doesn’t seem fair. After all, if they see

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One of the most powerful words in dating is totally misunderstood.

Vulnerability gets a bad rap. This word is often misused and misunderstood.

So often in fact, that everywhere you turn, people are teaching vulnerability. As if it is so new and foreign this inherent characteristic requires a guided class or weekend seminar.

You’ve most likely attempted to walk the fine line of strength and vulnerability, never quite knowing when to hit the brakes or the gas. So, you wait for the opportunity, the safe place or a kind face to

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The effect of the #timesup movement in your dating life.

Before you watch the video, let me say that I am so proud to be a woman and watch the #timesup movement gain momentum.  This time of change will go down in history as a pivoting point for women.

That being said, this video fills you in on how the “good guys” out there are responding.  Approaching a woman has always been a challenge, and now men are even more hesitant.  Watch the video and then click through to this

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QUIZ: Are you lovable? Adopt a new attitude when meeting new people.

In this new world of dating apps, whether you’re on them or not, the landscape, behavior, and expectations in dating have changed. Most of your complaints revolve around wasted time and the extra effort that amounts to nothing.  But what we also know it’s difficult to stop swiping in hope one match will have the potential for love. It’s like a slot machine in Vegas. You keep trying, feeling like you’re just a breath away from a big win.

I …

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How to Free Yourself From Shopping For Love

Have you ever wondered why shopping for the perfect gift for someone can create a huge amount of stress? You have a few ideas about what you want, but it seems the more you look, the harder it is to find. The pressure you begin to feel with each attempt at a new store yields no results. You start to feel like you’re failing the person you’re shopping for and the dread of showing up empty handed or with a …

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The Woman You Want Can’t Be Found Online.

Quality women are fed up with dating apps and are leaving in droves. So why are you still swiping and wasting time trying to find your ideal woman?

Free dating apps once offered ease, freedom, and hope. Now, they’re creating the exact opposite environment and no one’s happy or feeling successful.


Instead of making life easier, you’re spending even more valuable time managing texts with random women you know you’re never going …

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Do you want to date someone adventurous?

Adventure comes in all shapes and sizes; this personality trait is not confined to travel.  The idea is to determine how willing they are to try new things, and whether that compliments your own willingness. Don’t interrogate them, be kindly inquisitive and offer them a space to open up.

Here are a few questions to learn if the person sitting across from you is adventurous, and in what way.

  • Where was the last place you traveled?
  • Do you like to

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